In our latest episode, we talk to Neda, who didn’t feel relationships with the nice guys she picked measured up to her image of love, so she began to pursue relationships with people she wasn’t attracted to. It turns out that doesn’t work so well.

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In our case, however, May brings us Brian’s gripping story about spending nearly six years trying to please a girlfriend who was just not that into him.

A little less upbeat, but fortunately it ends well eventually.

Happy listening!

Toby

Hope taxes this year were not too stressful. On the theme of financial planning, today we bring you the story of Paul, who was in a marriage he thought was going fine when he suddenly found out that his wife had been plotting a divorce for some time.

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We’re back with an episode featuring stand-up comedian Amber Tozer. She tells us about an on-again off-again relationship she had when she first moved to New York as a small town Colorado girl.

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We’re back with the story of Lisa, who ignores her better judgement to get revenge on her ex by dating a friend of his he’d warned her about. Is it a bad idea to date a DJ from a country western bar? Are his long tales of military exploits just propaganda? And should you ever share your passwords with someone you date?

Tune in to find out!

We’re live with our latest episode, a story that follows a familiar dramatic storyline from novels and books. Earl, a man who everything’s going well for, all of a sudden sees a mysterious redhead in a bar – and his life begins to unravel. This time, though, it really happened.

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Hope you had a great President’s Day weekend, and said thanks to your favorite president. We’re celebrating by posting our interview with Janet, who married a man who hired her as a backup singer and stuck with him through drug problems and legal trouble – because, among other reasons, he swore he wouldn’t leave her.

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We’re excited to release our first live podcast with Steven Brody Stevens from The Hangover, Chelsea Lately and more. We talk about the trouble with juggling a relationship with a career in show business and took some questions from the live audience.

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I thought this might be a good place to turn to for advice since it pertains to a woman who happens to be divorced. 

I met a really attractive and intelligent woman at a holiday party.  She was her early 30′s, a couple of years older than me.  We had been talking for a while and things seemed to be going well.  We had even made tentative plans to go for a drink. 

Things changed quickly when I gave her, what I thought was a compliment on her classic curves.  I commented that she had a “really nice, hourglass figure”.  She became obviously offended.  I tried to clarify my comments but she rolled her eyes and shook her head.  She told me I was being “inappropriate” and that she was “very disappointed” and then WHAP!, she slapped my face and walked off.

My confusion has lasted longer than the stinging in my cheek.  Why was she so upset?  I’m wondering; do divorced women have a heightened sensitivity to men being womanizers?  Do you have any thoughts?  Should I email her an apology note? 

Signed,

Confused

Hello Confused,

Women are a complicated system of levers and pulleys and a mystery to most of us men. Your open handed hitter is no different. One woman might take that comment as a compliment (as intended) and be flattered, the next woman might slap you.  

I would suggest no apology note IF: you really did just say, “You have a really nice hourglass figure” and not, “you’ve got a great ass and nice tits”…those are two very different sentences, though they often sound the same in my head.  I say count your blessings that you got out with just a slap and hour of your time. If she was “very disappointed” with your comment you can imagine how she would feel when you actually made a mistake, like saying, “I like your tits.”

I have no idea if divorced women have a heightened sensitivity to men being womanizers, but I’m sure they don’t like generalizations. OR, in this case, guys at holiday parties that like hourglass figures. Luckily, you probably don’t like eye-rolling and head-shaking. So call it a wash and move on.

Good luck,

Todd

Dear Confused,

It is apparent that you, albeit unintentionally, activated some old feelings with your comment.  The only way for us to know for certain why this particular woman reacted the way she did is to ask her. 

It would be a stretch to make the generalization that divorced women have a heightened sensitivity to men being womanizers.  We can be sure that she did, as we all do, interpret the situation through her own perspective largely based on her past experiences.  She may have been reacting to the circumstance of her divorce, how she was treated in her childhood or even how she has witnessed other women being treated. 

Regarding apologizing, that depends on the circumstances, for instance, if you would like to see this woman again or if you feel remorse or guilt from your behavior and it is keeping you up at night.  If either is the case then you may want to apologize for unintentionally offending her and ask specifically what she found unpleasant so you can try not to repeat the same mistake.  

Thanks for writing in with your question.  I would like to applaud you for examining your behavior and having the willingness to explore how to avoid such events in the future.

All the best to you,

Pamela Georgette, LMFT/ATR

We’re pleased to release our first episode featuring a fellow member of the podcast community – Graham Elwood of the popular and great Comedy Film Nerds podcast sat down with us to talk about his recent divorce and his tendency to pick people he felt like he could fix.

Have a listen and be sure to check out Comedy Film Nerds as well!